Being told you can’t do something

“You can’t do that.”

“You can’t do this.”

Well why not? That’s the question we all ask ourselves, isn’t it? Why are we so often told we can’t do something?

No matter how old you are, it seems to me, that this statement never leaves us.

I’ve gotten to the point where I’m so tired of people telling me I can’t do something where I will actually speak up and ask why. Before, I’d usually just let the other person run their mouth to give them the satisfaction, but I’m sick of hearing the same stuff all the time.

There are always going to be obstacles. I know that. I also know that life won’t be easy, but I don’t care. I want to live my life the way I choose. I’ve always had people tell me what to do or what classes to take. I know that’s the life of being a high school student, but really? That’s your excuse? Pathetic.

After my parent’s divorce I learned that you have to be a fighter. I know I’m not the best, but I try. I have mental breakdowns all the time, but I don’t like to show it. People ask me how I’m so calm. Truth is, I’m not. I’m dying on the inside.

I tell people why I’m so stressed. Their response? Oh, that’s normal. No it’s not. Is it normal to hear students laugh about having meltdowns the night before? No. What is normal about people covering up pain with laughter? It’s scary. We continue to do it though. We don’t want to seem weak.

I’ve had many adults in my life tell me many things. You question what one says due to what you heard from another and you get in trouble for back-talking or being too smart.

I use to never speak up. Everyone told me I was a push-over. Fine then. I changed. Maybe not a whole lot, but I did. I still put those I care about before me, but I question things now. What happens when I do? I get yelled at for being disrespectful.

I’m just so tired. So tired of being told I can’t. Who are they to tell me what I can and can’t do? I have to listen for now, but in the end isn’t your own happiness most important?

I get so frustrated with society nowadays. Everyone is pointing in different directions. I’m trying to please everyone, but I’m just tying myself up in a deadly knot.

I’m not saying you should rebel against the people looking out for you, but ultimately the choice is yours. You can let people walk all over you and control your life, but that’s your choice. You can do anything. The real person holding you back is only yourself.


How to survive being sick

It’s that time of year where everyone around you is sick. Even though you’ve been extremely careful, you still get stuck with the bug. Now what? You’re tired and can’t do anything even if you want to. Well, here’s some general ideas to keep yourself occupied!

1) Obviously you’re going to need lots of rest, and don’t worry about it. Sleep an entire day away if you’re really that tired.

2) Read a book. You know that book you’ve been trying to read for months now, but haven’t had the time? Well, you have time now!

3) Take a nice hot shower. Feeling the hot beads of water pressing against you will definitely make you feel more fresh.

4) Take a bath. I know some people don’t like baths, but once in a while is okay. It will help relax you’re entire body and just ease up any tension you have.

5) Catch up on that Netflix! Sadly, I do not have Netflix, but if I did I’d never get off it. Now you have an excuse to sit around and watch it all day though, so why not take it the opportunity?

6) Listen to music. Loud. Soft. Whatever you want. Whenever I’m sick I like to dance around to loud music, because it makes me move around.

7) Move around. I’m not saying you should go run a mile, but I personally hate staying in one place when I’m sick. I want to go for walks or maybe even a stroll to Target. Just away from the bed.

8) Wear your comfiest¬†clothes. I don’t care if it’s summer, I will always wear my fuzzy pajamas when I’m sick.

9) Call someone. We tend to text a lot, but calling someone can make a difference, especially when you’re sick and you’re talking to someone you don’t get to talk to that often.

10) Look through old photos.

11) My personal favorite is to just grab some tea and a stuffed animal and snuggle up on the couch to watch a movie with a blanket.